Friday, June 21, 2013

Male Behavior Women Will Not Tolerate...

Relationship Question
Submitted by Ricardo F on June 20th, 2013
I find that some women who have that "perfect dress" always looking for another. Explain that. Also I got this quote from u "women will always give the most to the guy who give them the least" why so?????

Men and woman think totally different. What makes women look for another? Believe it or not, it tends to be the little things that make women the most satisfied in relationships. Allow me to share
 some insights on what women want:

Time: Of all the things we talk about women wanting, time with their man is it! The vast majority of women in happy relationships get 30 minutes of uninterrupted time with their man each day. Twenty-four percent of women who claim to be in unhappy relationships spend fewer than five minutes a day with their man.

Ask yourself, “How much time do I spend with my mate?” Uninterrupted time means time spent without iPhones and Blackberrys — a conversation with nothing else on.
Appreciation: Nowadays, women take care of the children and make salaries, and they tend to be very under-appreciated. Women should be expressive of what makes them feel appreciated, saying, “These are the kinds of things I like … x, y and z.” Men should listen, and women should tune in when their man are appreciative!

Understanding: It’s important for women to have men who understand them. It’s also important for women to help men understand how to listen. Men often don’t have a clue they’re being bad listeners.
Women have to sense a time limit to conversation. More often than not, men are sitting there thinking, “When is this going to end?” I would say 15 to 20 minutes, max. Women should say to their husbands, “It’s 8:00 p.m.; I need you to listen until 8:20 p.m.” Women may deserve 10 hours, but most men are not the best at listening to serious, emotional conversations that go on.

Fun: This is one of those things that often go out the window, especially after the being involved awhile. All the factors like jobs, rents or mortgages can add to relationship strain. Couples should set up a date night — once every week, even if you are tired — during which they spend a minimum of two hours alone. During this time, the couple should talk about everything BUT work, money and children.
Kind Gestures: Hugs, kisses, unexpected telephone calls to say "I love you" Simple things. I suggest five touch points a day for one week — any kind gesture that takes 30 seconds or less. If a man can do this for his partner for one week, both can be amazed at how much better they feel in the relationship.

Now, Women will give the most to guys who give the least because:

They want what they can't get: Nothing turns a woman off more than a needy partner. After all if a guy kept running after a woman then she will assume that he is desperate and because women are biologically wired to get attracted to the strong man that needy type turns them off completely. (Women like cocky men.)

They want a challenge: Most women want a challenge that can help them get a self-esteem boost. Nothing can make a woman feel better about herself than taming that wild guy who isn't emotionally available. In other words, women go for these men hoping to change them to the better but they usually find themselves stuck.

Biological wiring: Women are designed to look for confident, charismatic, dominant and risk taking men. Because the nice guy usually doesn't advertise any of these traits he usually ends up being a good friend rather than a desired sexual partner.

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Thursday, June 20, 2013

Guy's first impressions are girl's worst enemy!

So, you have the worst luck with guys.  Your past boyfriends have been complete jerks.  Your family and friends may say "you just have to wait" but you beg to differ!  You don't want to be single forever. Well, allow me to help with your confusion and break the monotony.
Let's take shopping for the perfect date dress at the department store you love.  When you check out your options most time they narrow down to two: super conservative or slutty, more likely neither of which appeal to you.  However, no matter how many racks you go through there don't seem to be a middle ground.  Well, figuring since you out and about, why not give a few a try. To your surprise you find a "conservative" black and white dress may prove worth your effort. On your body, with the right pair of shoes, the "conservative" dress transformed itself into exactly what you were looking for...classy, sexy, and flirty.
Well, it seems the male world is separated into two distinct and frustrating options... Nerd and Jerk!  But the uplifting news is that if dresses aren't that simple, people certainly aren't, no matter how they appear.
Before you bust open these stereotypes, I want to validate your frustration.  It's no bad luck that makes the so-called Hot Guys players, unsuitable and jerk boyfriends. Obviously there are exceptions (Me!) but there is a pattern to acknowledge.  Most so-called hot guys have an easy time with the ladies.  Girls flirt with THEM so they haven't need to learn to pursue and EARN the woman's affection.  If you don’t have to risk your heart to gain a girl’s attention then why bother being sensitive, vulnerable, kind, gentlemanly, considerate etc.? It’s hard work and kind of scary. This attitude toward relationships will make the so-called "hottie” cocky, lazy, and inconsiderate! Thus, a jerk!

Also, it's no coincidence that the so-called nerds have a reputation for being good boyfriends. The geekiest of nerds are usually terrified to talk to girls. Girls don’t give them a lot of attention so they are completely in the dark as to how to approach and relate to one. This is why this type of guy can come across as awkward and unattractive. But when given a chance, these boys are eager to win your affection and can be great boyfriends when you give direction and show them how.

While there is reason to separate men into two categories, I don't advise it. As long as you see them that way, you will continue to experience them that way.

Here's the deal, when it comes to women, your attraction for men does not lie in the looks department. Right? Of course, initially looks and confidence or lack thereof is the only information you get about someone new. However if you base all your decisions on your initial experience of a guy then you will only feel attracted to hot and confident men and you will feel like you are sacrificing something by going for the nerdy awkward men. But your true attraction doesn’t lie in these fleeting impressions. It lies in how a man behaves with you over time: how he listens, how he makes you laugh, how talented, capable, charming, thoughtful and considerate he is.

If you stay open-minded with the guys you “try on” and give them the chance to show you their good qualities, you may see them in a new, more attractive light. Just as a dress may look a certain way on the hanger and a different way once you put it on, a man can appear to be one thing and transform completely in the arms of the girl he loves. So give these guys a chance: “jerk” and “nerd” alike.

And don’t you dare settle for less than a caring guy who treats you right!
Daniyel S. Willis

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Monday, June 10, 2013

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