Quite often I speak with
people who have a very hard time putting themselves first. Not only putting
themselves first, but putting themselves anywhere other than last, of mattering
at all to themselves.
They feel a need or compulsion,
or perhaps have developed a habit of caring for others, of giving until they
literally have nothing left. They consistently put themselves last.
There is a difference between helping the responsible and knowing when you are being used. It's only by saying "no" that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.
Some of the most rewarding
experiences I have in speaking with people is when they learn that they too
are freely given respect, kindness,
friendship and love; never chased love and approval from others and most importantly love from themselves,
towards themselves.
"Don't forget that YOU matter.
When you say "yes" to others make sure you are NOT saying "no" to yourself!"
You matter, you really and truly
do. Putting yourself first and or at least in the equation, doesn't make you a
bad person or any less of a giver or a kind soul. It simply means you are
learning to be a kind soul to your own soul, to your own self.
So put
yourself first sometimes, make a new habit of it even and you'll thank yourself
later.
SAY YES TO YOU AND YOUR
NEEDS, SHOW YOURSELF THAT YOU MATTER (you really
do).
It will affect all areas of your
life when you do so for you will no longer be willing to be anyone's doormat and
you will not accept anything less than good things for: YOU.
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